Are all men trash?


This is a trending tag in South Africa right now. Just giving my 2 cents…

First we need to understand a few things…

1. Women are equally created in God’s image. They ought to be respected, honored and valued for their inner worth. Not exposed, abused, dishonored or mistreated like a piece of meat. The Bible is clear.

2. All men are not trash BUT it has got to a point where this is HOW women are feeling. Why as a male gender have we allowed this to happen? What are we going to do to change women’s view of men? THINK!

3. Be a man and own the sins of your gender. Ask if you have contributed to this problem in any way. A crude joke? A comment about a girl’s figure? “I’d tap that” “Check out those buns” Guys – you know the bathroom talk. 

I can’t say that my life is completely free from any of such discrimination or sin. Neither can you, neither can anyone else. But I want to be willing to listen, repent and learn.

If I can speak personally here: The desire of my heart is that by God’s grace I will see my wife flourish and blossom like the beauty that she is. When I said yes to her, I said no to every other girl. I made a commitment to enter into a covenant of love with her, and I committed to give only friendship, respect and kindness to every other women. I am ashamed of many of my gender who would dishonor and mistreat women. Shame on us. But I am also inspired and encouraged by faithful men who do indeed uphold and fight for the value of women. Also, for the example of men who under God, love their wives and cherish them, being willing to sacrifice anything for their well being. I can name a number of such men. They are not trash, and their wives will agree to that.

To the ladies willing to listen to a Christian voice…

1. Consider the love of God…

1 John 4:9-11 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

Ephesians 2:4-5 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ— by grace you have been saved.

If not for Jesus I too would be trash, but Jesus changed me, and He enables me to love true and well. My wife finds the ultimate example of love in Jesus, not me, not in any other man. I understand that, I find joy in that, and I can only strive to love her like Jesus does.

2. Find a man who would strive to love you like Jesus does

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

There are men who would love you like this if you would commit your steps to the Lord. Do not settle for a low life only interested in what he can get from you. Commit to the man who will serve you and sacrifice for you as Christ did for His church. This is the love life you can have if you let God write your love story. You wont find this guy wasted at the bar, you wont find this guy rubbing up against you in the club, you wont find this guy holding crude, sexist and obscene posters at a university residence. 

Satan is writing a fake love story filled with evil, heartache and tears. The first few pages seem fun and exciting but as the story continues the pages are stained with alcohol, porn and crude joking. Later the story gets more gruesome; rape, abuse, divorce. This story does not have to be your story. Let God write your love story.

Do not give up on happiness, do not give up on love, just give up on the books that don’t have the answers.

God gives us His book, His love story – it has changed me, it has changed my wife, it has changed many others I know…it can change you.

Let God write your love story.



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